Dear Nina,
I am writing to you today because I want to encourage you not to give up on love, even though you have been through some painful experiences. I know how hard it is to trust someone again after being betrayed or disappointed. I have been there myself, and I have seen many of my friends go through the same thing. But I also know that love is not something that you can give up on, because it is the most powerful and rewarding force in life. As Maya Angelou once said, "Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time."
My dear, I want to assure you that everyone is meant to find love at one point in their life. The time and place to find him is what is not guaranteed. You are a beautiful, smart, and successful woman who deserves to be loved and respected by a man who appreciates you for who you are.
I know you have met and fallen in love with different men before, and they have all broken your heart. The first one got insecure and ended the relationship because you were aiming and achieving all your goals. The second one felt you needed to be submissive and act like a wife to be by coming to his house to clean up, cook and do his laundry, even though he knew you worked all day and sometimes on weekends. And the third one, your Mr. Charming, who saw you as his meal ticket. I know you didn't mind because he made up for it with his charm and sweetness, and he didn't bother you as long as you provided his needs. But you knew someday he would abandon you like he had done before when you refused to heed his demand. That was not the kind of love you wanted, and I know you were tolerating him because you thought he was your only option. But it was not sustainable.
Nina dear, you were settling for less than you deserved. You were letting these men take advantage of you and hurt you. You were losing your self-esteem and your happiness. You were forgetting your worth and your dreams. You were missing out on the real love that was waiting for you.
I want to assure you that there is a real man out there looking for your kind of woman. A man who will love you unconditionally, support you in your goals, respect you as an equal, and make you feel special every day. A man who will be faithful, loyal, and honest with you. A man who will be your partner, your friend, and your lover. A man who will make you smile, laugh, and enjoy life. A man who will be your soulmate.
What you probably need right now is a time out from the dating arena. Set new goals and include some social activities to them. Travel more, see the world, attend events, meet people and make new friends. Serendipity happens, and you will find love when you are not looking. But you have to be open to it and ready for it. You have to love yourself first, and then you will attract the love that you deserve.
I know it is not easy to heal from the wounds of the past, but you have to let go of the pain and the anger. You have to forgive yourself and the ones who hurt you. You have to trust yourself and the ones who love you. You have to believe in yourself and the ones who support you. You have to be yourself and the ones who appreciate you.
You are not alone, my dear. I am always here for you. I am your friend, and your cheerleader. I am proud of you and I care for you. I want you to be happy and fulfilled. I want you to find love and keep it.
Please don't give up on love, my dear Nina. Love is the most beautiful thing in life, and you deserve to have it.
I am always here for you.
Captain on Cupidship
