Bia, Modupe,
I want to share some thoughts with you about finding a man, ehnn MAN! lol. I know you have been feeling shy and unsure about this topic, and I can understand that. But you know I always have your best interest at heart, right?
So, let’s talk. I know you have high standards and you are not easily impressed by any man. And I also know that when you like something, you always go for it, and you do all you need to do until you get it. But why should it be different when it concerns MAN? Lol. My dear, you have so many qualities that any man would be lucky to have you as his partner. But you can’t just wait for the right man to come to you. You have to go out there and look for him, and when you find the MAN that catches your interest, go for it, shoot your shot!
Okay, suppose you meet a man that somehow ticks all the boxes for your kind of man. He may be your colleague, or you may be just an acquaintance that you happen to do things together. What would you do in such a situation? Babes, you have to shoot your shot!
What do I mean by shooting your shot? I mean expressing your interest in a man that you like and asking him out. Yes, you heard me right. You don’t have to wait for him to make the first move. You can take the initiative and show him that you are confident and interested. Trust me, many men will appreciate that and find it attractive.
But how do you do that? Well, first of all, you have to find a man that you like and that you think is compatible with you. You can’t just shoot your shot at any random guy. You have to do some research and assessment. Find out what he likes, what he does, what he values, what he dreams of. Spend some time with him, create some scenarios to spark up conversations, and see how he interacts with you and with situations. While doing that, make sure to make him comfortable, compliment him on something interesting about him, tell him what makes him different, and let him keep the flow.
But some of them still can’t see the green light even if you were using a halogen lamp to flash it, and that is when you actually shoot your shot. You have to be direct and clear. You can say something like, “I like you, let’s be more than colleagues” or “Oga, I like your flow, make we dey roll together” lol. Nah, that sounds razz, I know. But you get the point. Just say something to pull him in, and take it from there.
Babe, I know you are concerned about his reaction, if he is not interested and goes about telling his crew, but that is the essence of the whole assessment, to know his kind of person, if he is his own man or not. And even if he rejects you, so what? You are not the first or the last person to face rejection. It doesn’t mean you are not good enough or that you should give up. It just means he is not the right one for you. There are plenty of fish in the sea, my friend. You just have to keep fishing until you catch the one that is meant for you.
I hope you get the point of this letter, and I hope it helps you to overcome your shyness and to find the right man for you. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. You can always count on me for advice, support, or just a chat. I wish you all the best, and I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Your friend,
Captain on Cupidship
