Dear Son,
I hope this letter finds you in good health and spirit. It is important that I share some wisdom with you on a very important topic: finding the right woman and building a happy marriage.
You see, this your generation hmmm... Ikegwuru! With so many information and different experts with no practical experience claiming a coach doesn't have to be on the football field to know know how to score goals. They are misleading you and many others with their false and generic advice. They are making you believe that there is a formula for a perfect relationship, and that if you follow it, you will never have any problems or challenges. But that is far from the truth, my son.
Son, on this matter about finding the right woman, it is critical for you to know that just as every human being differs from each other, so is every woman different from the other. In short, two men would have different experiences from one woman. So, when the experts try to present a formula for a perfect relationship, the result would always be failure. Because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, only a compatible one.
To find the right woman, you need to begin with yourself. Be sure to know that you are the right man. Like the scripture says "Man, know thyself". Then you can know your strength and weaknesses and you would be able to decipher what you want in a woman and what you don't want when you see it.
You are a smart, hardworking, and kind young man. You have a bright future ahead of you. You have a passion for music and sports. You have a good sense of humor and a warm personality. You have a lot to offer to a woman who appreciates you for who you are.
When you find a woman that interests you, try not to be desperate by trying to impress her by all means, because that is when you would do things that you should never do. If you get her in that process, she would expect that you keep up the "showoff" in the relationship, and before you know it, you will "chop breakfast". That's what you guys call heartbreak now, right? ahahah...
So, to find the right woman, you need to always be yourself. There is no particular place to find a woman. Serendipity is a factor. It is the reason you should know yourself and be yourself at all times. And when you find her, love her, cherish her, and make her truly happy to have you in her life.
My son, marriage is a beautiful thing that should be enjoyed and not endured. You know how your mother and I have lived together all these years. We have had our ups and downs, but we have always respected and supported each other. We have always communicated and compromised. We have always laughed and prayed together. We have always been faithful and loyal to each other. That is the secret of our marriage, my son. Not any formula or expert advice.
Do you still remember the story of how I met your mother? It was at a friend's wedding. I was not looking for a woman that day. I was just there to celebrate with my friend. But then I saw her across the open field, wearing a blue dress and a beautiful smile. She was the most gorgeous woman at the event. I knew I had to talk to her. So I gathered my courage and walked up to her. I introduced myself and asked her for a dance. She agreed, and we danced for a while. We talked and laughed and had a great time. I asked her if we could see again, there was no phone at the time, and she gave me her office address on Oba Akran, which was not far from mine. At the close of work on Monday I was at her office, and we went on a date. The rest is history, my son.
Ignore the noises and divorce news, and look forward to a happy relationship. Don't let anyone scare you or discourage you from finding your soulmate and starting a family. It is one of the greatest blessings in life, and I pray that you will experience it soon.
I love you, my son. And I am always here for you.
Captain on Cupidship
